Wednesday, November 18, 2015

An Extra Special Baby Quilt....

I finished it! Took me a lot longer than a quilt normally does... hit a few roadblocks along the way. I got all of the top done and then received the toxicology/autopsy report of Caitlyn's.... I think I went straight into a depression after reading that, to be honest. I stopped caring about pretty much everything. No energy. Just a hopeless feeling. It went on that way for several weeks and I finally broke down and went to the doctor. A bright and shiny new Prozac prescription later, I can at least function again somewhat. Sometimes the hardest thing in the world is admitting that you cant handle everything that life has tossed at you, and asking for help.



This was without a doubt, the most meaningful thing that I have ever sewn. It was such an honor to be able to thank Trooper Gee in my own way like this. Through all of this I have been able to get to know Trooper Gee and his boss, Sergeant Godino. Both of them have been so patient and caring to this crazy Mom - I will never ever forget their kindness. Both of them mean a lot to me. I wrote a "letter to the editor" for our local paper explaining how lucky all of us citizens are to have such people as this looking out for us. Not only do they do an amazing job, but they have amazing hearts to go right along with it. Thats rare these days - and needs to be recognized. I worry about them now in doing the jobs that they do, I guess I feel connected to them both. I told Trooper gee that I was just going to have to "adopt" him... you cant have too many mothers in this world can you? Like I said, they have patience with this crazy Mom... and I am blessed by it.

**Update** I was blessed to get to meet the BEAUTIFUL little girl that this quilt was made for. Such a sweetheart. She seemed to love her new "blanket" and loved her new stuffed animal too. I had decided to give her a stuffed own that I had given to Caitlyn last Christmas, our last Christmas with her. I remember her laughing about me giving a 19 yo a stuffed animal, but me reminding her that she would always be my baby no matter how old she got. After the accident, I found it and it was as pristine as the day I gave it to her. I asked and he didnt mind me gifting it to this sweet little girl - so I did. It warms my heart that so much love from me to Caitlyn is going to be passed on. Not just in the stuffed animal but in the quilt also.

Saturday, October 24, 2015

One foot in front of the other....

This is an excerpt from a letter that I wrote to another parent who lost a child. I thought that it might be god to share as a way of an "update", as it is so completely on point and describes my life at the moment completely.

I have gone to a few support groups for parents who have lost children, but Im not sure if I felt at home there. Mostly they were people who lost infants or grown children with families - I seemed to be the only one who lost a young adult. I told my husband that it was weird to feel so alone in a crowded room, but thats the case. In one support group attempt a lady actually said to me “you are less than a month out? I couldn’t even get out of bed at that time!” - Im not sure she meant it to shame me, but thats how I took it. I don’t have the luxury of hiding away, though thats what I would love to do. I have a 15 and 13 year old in the home that need me. I don’t know if thats a blessing or a curse. A blessing because it has forced me up - forced me to keep going when I didnt want to. But a curse in that it feels as if I am having to grieve in fast forward.

I definitely have the guilt. I cant help but feel like a failure as a mother, when our number one job is to protect them. Rational or not - its there and I cant help it. If I mention anything like that to other people, I get scolded and told that I shouldnt feel that way - as if I can stop or help it. I can no more help those feelings as I can help seeing the accident scene over and over in my mind. Its happening.

Im working on a quilt right now. Yes, just saying that surprises me more than you know. The state trooper that came and notified us of the accident is a young man - in his twenties for sure. He is a brand new father to a little girl. Him coming to my home alone and having to give me this news really hurt him, he actually cried after he told me. His humanity and kindness really meant more to me than I can ever explain. My husband and I went to see him again last week, and he still looked a bit stricken when he saw me. You could tell that this was a very hard part of his job and it hit him very close to home. The fact that it bothered him so much really touched me. I also think that it spoke to the mother in me - the part that hates to see anyone in pain. I asked him could I make his baby girl a quilt… and so thats what I am working on. I think it surprised myself when I asked to be honest. I haven’t sewn at all since the accident. I have Caitlyn’s clothes and I would really love to make some quilts with them - but I haven’t. Nothing that I have thought about has interested me or have I felt up to doing…. until this. I feel like Caitlyn would be happy and would like the idea. I have her picture right beside my machine and I feel like she is helping me with it, if that makes any sense at all.





I am not a religious or spiritual person — but for the first time in my life I understand why people are, especially in times like this. I understand that need - I wish that it worked for me, but it just doesn’t. I think Im jealous of those parents that it does work for. It must be comforting. All of this plays into the huge amount of anger that I have. I have pure seething anger and hatred inside me and nowhere to really direct it. Nowhere thats healthy anyway - but I won't lie and say that I don't go skipping down the unhealthy road quite often. Its not fair, its just not fair.

My daughter sits in a ceramic urn on top of a piece of stereo equipment in front of a quilt that my guild made for me…. Its crazy to say that. Its wrong in so many ways. And even though that I have her ashes, I am still drawn to the accident scene like a moth to a flame. I go there all the time. I go there and look at the ground at the place where she stopped being her, and I just sob. It hurts so much. Its so hard to breathe. I just want to rewind time. I'd trade places with her in a heartbeat if I could. I would give anything - make any deal, do any task, if only I could make it happen. But I cant. Im helpless and I hate it.

Im trying to put on a brave face for the world, but you there is a hollowness inside that I cant even describe. Any semblance of a smile is for show only because my heart is in a million pieces. Im not strong or brave and I hate it when people tell me that, but I know that they mean well, so I accept it. They don’t know what to say - and a lot of time I don’t know what to say to them either. All I want to talk about is the unjustness of the universe and how much I hurt and how angry I am... but I don’t dare say those things every time that I open my mouth - even though I want to.

My circle has gotten smaller. I guess that I knew it would happen. I can honestly say that the ones that are in this small circle are quality though. The people that I choose to surround myself with now have the best hearts and are a real gift to my life, and I appreciate them. I probably don't show it or tell them in ways that really express it - but I hope that they know somehow.

My family is going out of town for a few days this week for Halloween. Its something that we planned before the world stopped spinning. I think that a change in scenery will do us all good. I know that the girls need it. I feel like Im not being a good mother to them these days and I hate that. I wish that I had the strength to be everything that I need to be. I don't even know how. I feel like Im living on auto-pilot most days.

One foot in front of the other....


Leandra

Saturday, October 3, 2015

My Caitlyn....

I should maybe put a disclaimer here that says -- this is a crazy long post, it goes into detail about some horrible things - its not sugar coated, and my grammar isn't perfect -- if you cant handle this, maybe you should stop now, because negative comments wouldnt be a good idea. And for gods sake don't correct my grammar, its not funny or cute and just pisses me right off. Now is not the time.




Today has been two weeks since my daughter Caitlyn was killed in a motorcycle accident. It's still so unreal to even say that. My first born - she was only 20.

NEWS STORY

What I find myself doing is trying to make sense of it. I want to know every single detail. But then, those details haunt me. There has been many days that I've honestly thought that I was going crazy. And certainly times that I feel like this amount of pain MUST be what kills me... I just don't know how anyone survives it.

So what exactly happened? This is what I know as of right now... the story has changed a bit here and there since I first heard it, but as of right now - this is what I know. On saturday, September 19th -- Caitlyn and her boyfriend Shane decided to go riding with some of his friends who lived in Zephyrhills. They left Shane's house in St. Petersburg sometime that afternoon and drove over to one of his friends house. Ive heard several rumors, but I cant of course prove any of them.... I met with Shane's Uncle after the crash and he told me that he saw him drinking that day before he got on the bike. I spoke to one of his friends that they were riding with that evening, and they told me that they were all hanging out and drinking there too.... the toxicology report is not in, so of course all of this is just rumor at this point. It causes a whirlwind of emotions for this Mom though, let me tell you.



At approximately 8:30 pm, they were traveling down Fort King Road in Zephyrhills (yes, where the bottled water comes from - the bottled water that I don't think I can ever drink again). The road they were on has some very long straight aways and is pretty rural. As a result, a LOT of people speed on this road. In the many times that I have been to the crash scene, I remember thinking how it seemed like people treated it like the damn autobahn. So the motorcycle was traveling down the road and had to crest this small hill before it hit this very long straightaway. Maybe 200 feet past the crest of the hill there was a side road that met Fort King Road (FKR). A man who was an uber driver was heading to work and made the turn onto FKR. The impact happened maybe 20 feet after he made the left turn. This leaves me with so many questions. Did the guy see the motorcycle and pull out in front of it? Or was the motorcycle going SO fast that it crested the hill and covered the 200 feet in a matter of seconds? There is a homicide investigation with the Florida Highway Patrol going on right now, and I guess it will all come out in the report.



The motorcycle slammed into the back of the uber driver's dodge dart so hard that it crushed the rear end of the car and spun it 360 degrees. At impact, the nose of the bike went down and the rear came up - ejecting Caitlyn. She flew 175 feet and hit the ground, landing on her beautiful head. We don't know the exact mph that the motorcycle was traveling, but we do know that it was in excess of a 100 mph (guesses have been at 130 - but honestly we don't know. the report will tell us this). So many people ask me was she wearing a helmet. I wish that a helmet would have been the answer to it all, but there really is no helmet made that will withstand a 100 mph force and the distance that she flew.



The death certificate came out and I have also spoken with the medical examiner (the forensic pathologist), and they have explained all of this to me. I am not sure why I need to know all of the details, but I just need to. She had a broken neck in several places, spinal cord contusion and a severe axonal injury. I didnt understand what all of that meant, so I googled it - and even then STILL didnt really get it. The medical examiner explained it to me -- she has offered me the autopsy report, but I just don't know if I can read that yet. The medical examiners office also took pictures, but again - I just don't know if I can see those. What the M.E. explained to me was that your brain is very fragile and that people have died simply by stumbling and hitting their head. In this case, Caitlyn flew 175 feet and landed on her head - specifically on her face. Your face isn't as strong as you would think - it crushed and caused brain damage. I was desperate to know if she was in pain at the end or not. It was explained to me that with this severe of brain trauma, it was instant - in her words, milliseconds. Caitlyn was brain dead at the moment of impact. I don't know if that detail makes me feel better or not. Part of me is relieved that she wasn't in pain, but the majority of me is just overwhelmed at the severity of it all. Everything that made her HER, died on that very spot.



Shane was thrown off the bike at impact too -- shortly after Caitlyn was. He had a lot more of the impact with the car itself. He had a lot of bodily injury. He died within minutes of hitting the ground. The motorcycle looked like a bomb blew up. It literally was in millions of pieces. It so happened that all of this went down right in front of someone's house. The couple came out immediately as it sounded horrific they said. The woman, Betty, held onto Shane as he took 2 breaths, and that was it. Her husband went to Caitlyn and stayed with her until the Fire Department/EMT's got there within minutes. He said that he didnt touch her and that she was laying face down. He said that she didnt make much sound and didnt move. I guess now that we know the ME's findings, we know why - she couldn't. The Paramedics took her to the local hospital and immediately airlifted her to Tampa. Her body hung on for a short time, but gave up somewhere on the flight. The doctor pronounced her dead when they reached St Joseph's hospital in Tampa.



Caitlyn never changed her i.d. over to a Florida one. Mom bugged her about it, but she never did. So the troopers thought that she still lived in Alabama, and actually went to the address there looking for her. I'm not exactly sure how they finally got my name, but they did. It was 2:30 am the following morning (9-20-15), when the knock on the door came. Jeff got up and answered it. I sat up in bed and he turned back to me and said - it's the police, they want you. I didnt know what to make of it. I was half asleep and the worst hadn't gone through my head at that moment. I quickly threw a pair of shorts on and went to the door. Jeff turned around to put the dogs away, as they were freaking out over some stranger at the door. I went out and pulled the door shit behind me until he could get them under control. The trooper was huge. He had to be 6'5" if he was an inch -- and easily 300 pounds. Gigantic guy. He says to me -- do you know Caitlyn Bradley? -- I say yes, I'm her mom. He says -- Caitlyn was involved in a motorcycle accident last night on Fort King Road in Zephyrhills and unfortunately she did not survive her injuries. I just stared at him. -- Wait, what? -- He said it again, and by this time Jeff was opening the door behind me and I turned to look at him with this look of horror and he says -- What is it? - I say, Caitlyn's dead! -- the trooper asked could we go inside, and honestly I don't remember much of the rest of the conversation. The one thing I do remember is that this gigantic man stood there and had tears rolling down his face and wouldn't leave until I told him it was ok. He even then, said that he would sit in the driveway for a while in case I needed him. I dug around on the internet, and I found this PICTURE of Trooper Gee (on the left).



I think that I was in a bit of denial. The Trooper told me, I knew on some level that it was true, but I needed more. I cant really make sense of it now. But thats the truth. So, as soon as the sun came up - I wanted to go to the crash scene. I needed it. I was driven and I dared someone to argue. I was going. So we went. We found it easily enough - even never having been to Zephyrhills before. Which, let me just say, unless you have a reason to go there - why would you ever? We got there and I immediately started trying to piece things together and make sense of them. I saw the impact marks (which looked like about 24 inches of skid marks)... I saw where the car ended up. I saw what was left of the motorcycle -- pieces still everywhere. All the marks on the road were still there. I didnt know it, but I walked by the lace where Shane landed. I didnt understand the markings on the road, so I didnt "get it". I walked and saw all of this, and I was looking for my baby. I looked and looked and I couldn't find anything. I guess it never dawned on me to go as far as I needed to go. 175 feet is a very LONG way. Seriously. Jeff was with me on the hunt. He was ahead of me and had somehow went past the spot. It was hard to understand what we were looking at. I remember seeing this little orange flag in the ground. It was one of those flags like landscapers use when they survey your property (irony since thats what Shane did for a living - he worked with a land surveyor). I saw the flag but it still didnt register. I then saw an orange painted arrow pointing towards the flag and I looked a little closer, but still couldn't tell that anything was there. I started to walk on, and then I heard it. I will remember this for the rest of my life. I heard the buzzing of flies. I turned back and looked much closer and where the flag was - where the arrow was pointing, was to a spot on the ground that was covered in flies. Looking closer, it looked like the Hulk had punched the ground, and it was covered in blood. I immediately collapsed, screaming. Jeff came running and all I could do was point. It was the most heart breaking thing I ever saw. I wailed. It was as if I found at at that moment that she was dead, regardless of what the Trooper had told me. I see that scene in my mind now, every single time I close my eyes. I didnt know at that moment for certain, what it was - I suspected - but now that I have all of the details, I know for sure what it was that I had saw.



I had to leave. I couldn't breathe. The woman who lived in the house - who is probably traumatized by all of this - came out and hugged me before I left. She went a few hours later and placed some flowers at the spot for both of them.



I didnt let my other girls see the scene right then - although they were waiting in the car. I couldn't really leave them home alone after they just found out that their sister was killed. But I didnt let them get out and see it just then either. I picked up a small blue piece of the bike as I walked back to the car. Its about the size of an egg. Not sure why I did, but I did. I guess I forgot to mention that during that time between the Trooper leaving and the sun coming up for me to come to the crash scene - I called my therapist and woke him up. I had been seeing a therapist for about a year prior to this. On a lot of those occasions we talked about Caitlyn. How I was desperate to get through to her and worried about her etc. The answering service had him call me back in a few minutes after I called and I honestly cant remember much about that conversation except for one sentence that he said. He said that Caitlyn had been on a self destructive path. Whether or not that had been true in his eyes, those were not the words to say to a mother who had just lost her child. FFW a couple days and I received a hand written sympathy card from him too. It said for me not to blame myself and that I had been a good mom.... but he also said that "although we could maybe see this coming it didnt prepare is for it"... again, Im not certain why a PHD psychologist would say this to me. Maybe Im raw and maybe it doesn't matter and at that moment I would take anything said to me wrong, but it just stuck with me. Ive gone to see him once since then and it just doesn't feel the same. The relationship just isn't the same. I dunno... cant explain it, it just doesnt feel right anymore. I have this anger towards him and I feel like he is clueless - because only a clueless person would have said those things.



I feel like my entire life will from now on be a "before this" and "after this". I think of all of the things I wish I had done and said. I wonder if there were things I could have done to prevent this. The "what if's" truly haunt me. I have her phone... and what do I find on it? Lots of pictures of her, and videos (its so wonderful to see her and hear her voice again)... but I also found this.



Forever young.... wow. When I saw that on her phone, my heart just stopped. Did she somehow know? Did the universe slip some kind of secret to her? Why didnt it tell me? Was there signs and whispers that I somehow missed?



On September 15th we went to one of her favorite places -- Lake Morton in downtown Lakeland, and released 20 monarch butterflies - one for each year of her life. Jeff had had the idea of a butterfly release when we were trying to think of something special to do to celebrate her. Literally minutes after he brought up the idea, I was going through her stuff and I found this poem that she wrote....

FLY -- by Caitlyn Bradley

Is it too soon?
Wrapped in this tight caccoon
Yearning and waiting
Growing and waiting
How long do I have to stay here?
Is it yet Spring?
And then finally, my mind
Wanders off and I'm again alone.
I am still yet a baby awaiting
My wings
Believing and loving are
Yet still silly things
How my heart yearns for
The open air
Soaring high and swooping
Low if I dare.
How do I know if
The world gives a care?
I'm still here in this tree
Yearning and waiting to
Be free
And oh how I long -
And then suddenly -
I can feel them!
My wings!
My precious wings!
It is time
I slowly crack the shell
That has held me in its embrace
Free from youth and all its disgrace
I soar!
I fly!
Oh how beautiful I am in the sky
The green green grass
Spreads below me
For miles
I am free
I am free
This is my destiny



Jeff and I found an online support group for parents who have lost children. What a sad club to join. But I think Im glad it exists. Its been a place where I can go and not be judged for my feelings or thought that I'm crazy. Ive shared how angry that I am from the depths of my soul. Just seething in anger and how much I want to kill someone. I need someone to blame. I want to scream to the universe WHY?! There are so many other people that would easily deserve this over her -- and I honestly don't care what anyone thinks of my saying that. Its true! A parent should never have t make plans for the body of their child. Should never have to speak with the hospital over organ donation. Should never have to choose an urn for their child. This is WRONG and I'm angry!

I miss her.

When we did the butterfly release, I went onto her phone - on her Spotify account and pulled songs straight from there. One of the songs that really tears my heart out os by Chris Daughtry -- its called "Wild Heart". Caitlyn thought that song was talking about her, and now that I read the lyrics and listen to it - I tend to think its talking about her too.



We don't have family who lives here in Florida, so we are largely on our own these days. Jeff finally went back to work and the girls went back to school and I'm alone at home with my thoughts. I do the most brilliant things - like playing these heartbreaking songs on repeat, or break out the baby pictures. And I KNOW that I am the world's worst mom right now. I know that the younger girls need me - but in all truth, I am useless right now. And I know people are judging me by it, telling me what I should do or shouldn't do. But I cant help it. I cant go anywhere without thoughts of Caitlyn coming to me and me breaking down. I know, Ive tried. I took the girls to the mall - and in the mall I see t-shirts with tigers or butterflies and I start crying. I am a mess. I don't know what to do. How do you make it through this? I just want to wake up from this nightmare - I wish someone would tell me how.




People have largely been awesome through this. I have found out that I have people who care that I don't even know. My group of buds on Instagram (which was always my happy place - and why its so hard for me to go there right now, I cant find a single thing to be happy about)... Fran, Alex, Teri and Miriam decided to put together an auction in Caitlyn's honor. I never expected such a thing. I even mores never expected that people would come together for it. When they tell me of all of the people (most of them people I don't even know), who have pitched in - it leaves me breathless. Its good to know that there is a heart in this world after all. Sometimes in my dark hours its hard to think that way. Sometimes I feel like Im alone in the world in this crushing grief that feels like a boulder sitting on top of my chest and preventing me from taking a breath. I will always come back to this and remember that more people cared than I ever knew. And all the while that this group of friends were doing their auction... I have Kristy putting together a call for quilt blocks to create a "Zombie Hug Quilt" and my "sister from anudda mudda Lisa - doing the same thing. I never expected this. But let me tell you -- its the most comforting feeling to know that we aren't forgotten in this. I look around at the world thats still spinning and see how stuck in time that I am - and its a wonderful feeling to know that there are people who are thinking of us.



When I first went on Facebook and started pouring out my broken heart, I mentioned that I had to find an urn. And who knew that everything associated with death was so damned expensive anyway? I feel like its taking advantage of the grieving, but anyway... when I mentioned it, one of my friends Lu spoke up and said that she had a beautiful urn that she bought a while back and never knew why she bought it. And that she would love to give it to me. Its black with white drawings on it and a beautiful crescent moon at the top. The inscription says:

"When the hush of night covers me - You come to me in dreams - forever young."



Two days after the crash, I took her sisters to the scene. By this time the county had cleaned up. Most of the wreckage was gone, they had mowed the grass and the blood was gone.



My middle child picked up a lot of the pieces that were left (there weren't many), and she used them to create this collage. Its an owl - one of her sister's favorite things. Its now in a shadowbox.



I know that I am not being a good friend to people who care. Im not communicating like I should. I just have this darkness in me right now. I cant talk about things that usually make me happy. I cant talk about anything but this. So instead of doing that to people - because it really makes people uncomfortable when you talk about this stuff... Ive just hidden away in my little hole. I'm sorry if people think its ride, and Im sorry if they think its ungrateful for the help they are providing. But I just have nothing but the bleakest sadness to share right now. I feel like an open wound just walking around.



I need her close to me. Ive walked around with things that were hers and held them in a vice grip. I am completely and utterly obsessed with this butterfly pendant that will hold a little of her ashes and will rest straight above my heart. Its all I can think of - Im not sure why. I guess I want her touching me or vice versa. Just thinking of it right now it has tears streaming down my cheeks and I cant breathe once again. I just want my baby, and since I cant have that - I'll take whatever I can get. I'm saving for it. Ive been trying to sell things. Ive even asked for help - which is NOT something I do. Ive always been independent and not only don't ask for help, usually have trouble receiving it too... but this - this is bigger than me. I know that there has been some comments from people about whether or not they agree with me on this. Ive heard some comments about why its wrong for people to donate so that I can have "jewelry". All I can say to those people is this -- i wish it were simply jewelry. I wish that is all it was, you have no idea.



Today is 2 weeks since it happened. Two weeks since my world ended. Two weeks...... and its my husbands birthday too. Mine is 8 days from now. The last conversation that I had with Caitlyn - the day that she died - she was teasing me over how old I was getting and turning 40. I cant even imagine having this without her. It just feels so wrong. Poor Jeff said that it didnt feel right for him today either and that he just wasn't in a birthday mood. I get that. 2 weeks and a day ago - I was excited about the return of The Walking Dead.... excited about going to Atlanta for Walker Stalker Con on Halloween.... excited about finishing my Norman Quilt. Thinking about the holidays that are right around the corner. It just dawned on me that I have things for all three of my girls on layaway..... Nothing makes me smile now - certainly not any of those things.

Monday, September 14, 2015

The Making Of A Norman Quilt....

Greetings you zombie loving fiends! Happy to see you! I recently completed a quilt that I'm pretty proud of, and I thought it would be fun to combine all of the "progress" shots into one blog post! So here we go....

It all started at QuiltCon in Austin, Texas.... I was shuffling along (incognito of course, quilters tend to freak out over zombies - I think its a bit discriminatory - but thats another blog post)... and I see this pixel quilt of Jensen Ackles from Supernatural hanging in one of the booths.

Ok you gotta admit - this quilt is kick ass to say the least! This beauty was created by the talented Stacy -- @hushrules on Instagram. At risk of being mowed over, I stood there and gawked for a while at the awesomeness of it. The proprietor of the booth came over and struck up a conversation. Her name was Andi and she owns a super cool business called YouPatch. What YouPatch does is take a picture that you choose/submit and create a quilt pattern from it. They have video tutorials and very detailed instructions so that pretty much anyone can follow along and create a masterpiece. I knew right then, that at some point, I wanted to make one of these amazing quilts!

Fast forward to present day (as fast as zombies can forward anyway).... here I am getting ready to attend the Walker Stalker Con in Atlanta this October and I wanted to take something outrageously cool to get Norman Reedus to sign. If you will remember from my past posts, we attended the Walker Stalker Con in Orlando and got to have a photo op with him, but unfortunately didnt get to have an autograph. Maybe this worked out for the best, because it gave me time to create something! So I started digging for a terrific picture of Norman to send Andi over at YouPatch to work her magic on! This was harder than I thought... how does one choose a picture of Norman anyway - I mean, they are all so good?! Finally, I settled on this one...



I sent it off to Andi at YouPatch and this is what she created...



So off I go..... here are the progression pics.



This was the most incredible experience! Andi was very supportive through the progress and commented on my Instagram feed many times. I felt very accomplished when this bad boy was finally pieced together! Here are a few more pics of the completed top!



As any true fan knows... Norman is a big Kiss fan -- always posting some Kiss pics on his social media feed etc. So in chatting with some friends on Facebook (The Bitchy Stitcher to be exact - and if you haven't checked out her blog, OMG are you missing out! Megan is HILARIOUS! Be sure to nab her book too, you will not regret it -- Quilting Isn't Funny)-- I decided to "funny up" the back a bit... sounds like me huh? So this is what the backing looks like.



So now that I have the top and the back pieced, what next.... Sending it to a long arm professional to quilt, thats what?! No way I am tackling this baby myself and risking screwing up all of my hard work (damn fingers keep falling off at the wrong times, it would suck...) So guess who I am sending it to? The perfect person! Stacey - @hushrules!!! The very person whose creation got me started on this journey to begin with! She did such an amazing job quilting her Jensen quilt that I am very confident that my Norman (see what I did there?) is in the perfect hands! Did I mention that Stacey has since been able to actually show her amazing creation to Jenson Ackles himself anddddddd get it autographed?!!! Check out her Instagram -- so cool!

So here we are.... waiting for the quilt to come back from the long arm master and excitedly waiting for October to get here! I really hope that I will be able to follow in Stacey's footsteps and get my pixel quilt autographed by the man himself too! It will hang in my sewing room in a place of honor to inspire me that even though a project looks daunting (and lemme tell ya the - what seemed like millions - of little pieces did seem daunting), that if you set your mind to it, you CAN do it! I have not even been sewing for 2 years yet, did I mention that? Yep... never touched a sewing machine before that! So, if you persevere and have determination, you can do anything -- and the biggest piece of advice that I can give a new quilter is this... Believe in Yourself!!! Don't listen to anything that makes you question yourself! If you ever need a pep talk, just shoot the Zombie Quilter an email and I promise to hook you up! ;-)

Zombie drool and brains....
ZQ